Monday, June 28, 2010

A New Seed Is Planted

As you know from my previous post, we have moved into an apartment across town from our home which we have had to relinquish to the bank.  What originally seemed like a financial no brainer has turned into a case of complete isolation from our friends, our community and everything else that is important to us.  We have not begun to unpack any of our boxes.  I don't even know where most of my clothes are, nor do I have any intention of trying to locate them.  

A couple of weeks ago, "The Boss" went to our house to pick up a few things that we need to add to the clutter of our tiny abode.  She was gone for less than an hour when the following text conversation began.  THE BOSS:  "The house between Wendy and Gina is for rent."  (Wendy and Gina and their families live just around the corner from our house.)  ME: "Oh yeah?  I wish we would have known that before we moved to this little apartment."  THE BOSS:  "I want that house!"  ME: "Me too but we signed a lease here and it will cost a lot to break that lease.  Not to mention the security deposit and first months rent on the new place."  THE BOSS:  "I want that house."  ME: "This is not a conversation to have via text messaging.  We will talk about it when you get home."

Needless to say, it was a short conversation that took place when she got home.  When we moved into this little apartment across town, we took "Tall Stack" (our oldest daughter who just turned nine this month) out of her home, out of her school district and away from her friends.  So, two cashiers checks, one broken lease and one freshly signed contract later, we are on the move again.  Like a band of gypsies, we are packing up our gear and heading out of here after just over a month.  

You might be wondering if this makes any sense financially.  I asked myself this same question about 1000 times.  Here's the thing though.  Keeping "Tall Stack" in her school, living in between two amazing families who are dear friends of ours and not seeing "The Boss" cry every night because she feels so guilty about moving over here in the first place.  These reasons are not something that you can slap a price tag on.   

So we aren't going home, but we are getting as close to home as we can possibly get and we are looking forward to the BBQs with friends and neighbors.  We are looking forward to having space to put all of our stuff again.  But most of all we are looking forward to seeing "Tall Stack" return to her school that she loves so much. 

It doesn't always seem to make sense at the time, but things really do happen for I reason.  It's taken me 36 years to finally believe that.  Do you believe it too?

  

 



14 comments:

  1. Some things have no price tag. It just sounds that this was the thing to do, and in the end the cost of a broken lease, a deposit, and one month's rent is a small price(although having to put it down all at once is a bit of a struggle) for the peace of being in a familiar place with the comfort of good friends. It seems almost Providential. I'm so happy and relieved for you, and wish you and your family the very best.

    Now go help unpack, will ya! :oD

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  2. I do believe that! If it wasn't for this to have happened, than this would never have happened.

    I'm glad that things have worked out as close to normal for your family.

    I agree with Lynn...Now go unpack your stuff dude and find your clothes!

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  3. THAT is such great news! I'm jumping for joy for you over here!

    And yes...I have come to realize that all things happen for reasons that perhaps we can't comprehend at the time, but will become clear to us at some point.

    I'm happy for ALL of you! Even your neighbors will be thrilled! Imagine THEIR stress that some yahoo's would move in! But it's just you!
    (or maybe you're the yahoo?....)

    :-)

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  4. I think that's wonderful! Being close to family and friends is so important. Who cares if it costs a little bit - it's no one else's biz anyways. Congratulations! - G

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  5. Life is a strange journey. Completely unpredictable. But situations like this just make it easier to appreciate the things that matter. I think you are going to be happier than ever!!! I'll be over for a margarita and a steak just as soon as you get the old BBQ hooked up! (i'm proud of you) xo

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  6. You bet I believe it. A home has to be a Home...and you had to find it. A couple of years from now you will laugh about your Nomad lifestyle. Congratulations on being where you should be.

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  7. YOU ROCK AS A HUSBAND AND FATHER for making this happen, despite not making any logical, or financial sense. HELL YEAH you made the right decision. You can't put a price tag on happiness. Your daughter returning to her school, you and your wife being able to socialize with friends, THAT IS PRICELESS. I am so happy for all of you!!! Have a GREAT 4th. After all the unpacking is finished, you all can take a deep breath and relax, because you ARE home.

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  8. YOU'RE BACK! Glad to see you posting again! Glad that it worked out...especially for "short stack" since I'm so fond of her :)

    I guess everything does happen for a reason, but what I know for certain is that if we just keep on chugging through the hard times, we make it to the light at the end of the tunnel. Never give up!

    Glad to see you on again!

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  9. I believe it. Someone once said to me "Everything has its way of working out in the end." Seems to always come true. And it just goes to show ya, yes, you can 'go home!'

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  10. Yes, I believe that too! So glad things are working out for you & yours. Here's to many delicious BBQ dinners, laughs with friends, and happiness at school for Tall Stack. YAY!!

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  11. I'm impressed John. You're easy to read. You might as well just finish your book so you can start on your second.
    I'm with you on the concept of NOT repeating familial pasts, & your idea that we aren't what we are, we are who people perceive us, is an interesting point, but I don't believe that idea is black or white.
    I'm up for that hill climb if you haven't gone yet.
    LaterBrother

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  12. Are you finished moving yet, cause I just started and am on the verge of heart failure! Its all those books I cannot live without.....

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  13. Yes, we are done moving and still adjusting. I have a few posts in the works for those who have asked, yes I will be back to a regular blogging schedule soon. Good luck with the move, I hope everything goes smooooothly for you, Entre Nous.

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